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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.

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2013-01-13, 13:41:53
anonymous from Canada  
I have been scammed by a man I connected with on matchdotcom. He was everything I was looking for. He claimed to be an engineer, self employed (they always are) and the day we were to actually meet, he was suddenly summonded to Malaysia to win the bid on the oil contract. I fell for it all, I trusted him.
He too posted as never married and a son. The stories he can tell you just blow your mind with horrific sadness and problem after problem.
Yes he claims to take hius name off of the dating site and yet I find out through my investigation he has been on it. Recently I went back on the dating site and who comes across my screen...yes you guessed it. Same picture, same profile, maybe a few changes and a different profile name for sure.

Do not fall for this man.

By the way, he will send you pictures of the vehicles he drives...but really anyone can take a photo of oneself at the car dealership.

2013-01-13, 13:42:15
anonymous from Canada  
I have been scammed by a man I connected with on matchdotcom. He was everything I was looking for. He claimed to be an engineer, self employed (they always are) and the day we were to actually meet, he was suddenly summonded to Malaysia to win the bid on the oil contract. I fell for it all, I trusted him.
He too posted as never married and a son. The stories he can tell you just blow your mind with horrific sadness and problem after problem.
Yes he claims to take hius name off of the dating site and yet I find out through my investigation he has been on it. Recently I went back on the dating site and who comes across my screen...yes you guessed it. Same picture, same profile, maybe a few changes and a different profile name for sure.

Do not fall for this man.

By the way, he will send you pictures of the vehicles he drives...but really anyone can take a photo of oneself at the car dealership.

2013-01-13, 15:18:31
Miss Marple from United States  
2013-01-13, 13:42:15
anonymous from Canada

Yes this is a scam ,the signs are there with the common scam scenario with a engineer lonely with a child looking for love and encounters all kind of problems,the promises to meet fails because of all kind of circumstances ..please post more information as full name ,email address,phone numbers if given,mails: especially the introduction mail and the money asking letter,if you have a user name the scammer is using would be good for my researches ,the photos are stolen online,the man is a victim to ID theft also in this...
Did you send money to the scammer? Post the name and address where you sent the money in...

All kind regards //Miss Marple//
2013-01-19, 11:18:34
Miss Marple from United States  
Skype Scam

CORPUS CHRISTI - The Better Business Bureau says beware of a new online scam targeting Skype users.
The default settings on Skype allow anyone else with Skype to call you. That means that any scammer can find you and pop up on your screen.
That's when they try to convince you that you won something, or tell you to click on a link that looks good, but really has a virus in it.
And that's when the scammers get your personal information or get you to cough up money.
Sometimes the scammers try to get you buy bogus computer protection software.
The B.B.B. says the online video chat program is attractive to scammers because its used on so many devices like IPADS and smart phones.
Alan Bligh is the regional director for the B.B.B. in Corpus Christi, and says its basically an old dog learning new tricks.

'It could be absolutely anything (any scam) that you used to see on emails or still do see on emails, facebook scams, all these kinds of things. It's just another vehicle for the bad guys,' Bligh says.
Skype tried to fix the problem by changing the default settings on the program so that only someone's friends on Skype could call them on Skype, but Bligh says Skype's customers didn't like that.
'They want to hear from everyone. I guess the social networking thing. And you just opened it up,' he says.
So in short, if you want to keep the scammers out, just go into Skype and change those preferences so that only your friends can call you, and the bad guys can't.

2013-01-19, 11:25:06   (updated: 2013-01-19, 11:27:36)
Miss Marple from United States  
JOINT BASE LEWIS-McCHORD — A local soldier has received thousands of emails from love interests around the world.

There’s only one problem:

He’s not looking for love.

Major Gordon Hannett, stationed at JBLM, said online fraudsters are posing as the Major and soliciting money on his behalf. Hannett said someone claiming to be him scammed more than 300 woman into thinking they were talking to the major, and would get the women to send money on his behalf. The woman send the scammers money, Hannet said, and then contact him asking him what went wrong with their transaction.

“Women will send $2,000, $3,000, $10,000,” Hannet said. “I’ve heard of women cleaning out their entire retirement accounts to send to these guys, these scammers.”
Hannet said scammers use fake dating profiles and pictures to trick women into sending money for the chance to meet. A quick search for Hannett shows two false Facebook accounts featuring his real picture. Hannet has no idea how the accounts were set up.
Shannon Smith is senior council at the Attorney General’s Office. Several scams involving wire transfers to men claiming to be soldiers occur each year, Smith said. Though it’s a well known problem, little can be done to stop them.

“Often times when you send your money overseas, there’s nothing anybody can do to get your money back because our office doesn’t have the ability to chase people down overseas,” Smith said.
Major Hannett is now making it his mission to fight the scams and warn others about the crooks.
“They’re the lowest of the low,” he said. “They’ve preyed on retirees and widows. They take their money. It’s just awful.”
The FBI is aware of many online dating scams and features online resources for those hoping to fight the fraud.
Visit these sites for more information on how to fight scams:

2013-01-19, 11:39:55   (updated: 2013-01-19, 11:42:33)
Miss Marple from United States  
Te'o victim of 'romance scam,' says expert

(RNN) - Manti Te'o was the likely victim of a common internet scam that has bilked thousands of victims out of millions of dollars, said the owner of, a website that offers counseling, education and healing for victims of the scams. And like victims of similar hoaxes, he has been humiliated and ridiculed.
Barbara Sluppick, of Branson, MO, heads a handful of volunteers who run the bare-bones website that started as a Yahoo Group in 2005 and now claims more than 19,000 members. The organization has reported more than 5,500 scammers who cheated more than 1,200 people out of more than $15 million.

Sluppick's gut feeling is that Te'o was the victim of what she calls 'a west African scam,' and that he is in no way involved in the deception.
'Anybody who said he plotted this, who says he was in on the hoax, they have no clue,' she said. 'I deal with this every day. As much as it was a scam, it was very, very real to Manti Te'o. This was as real to him as if he met her face-to-face and went on a date with her every Saturday night.'

Te'o told the heartbreaking tale of how he was inspired by girlfriend Lennay Kekua, the beautiful 22-year-old Stanford graduate who died of cancer. The story attracted national attention during Notre Dame's football season and was reported at face value by multiple national publications. When broke the story on Jan. 16 that Kekua never existed, people everywhere shook their heads in disbelief. In short order, Te'o's character, intelligence, honesty and personal life were called to question.
Sluppick wasn't surprised. She's heard variants of the same story for years.
'From all I've heard, him being madly in love but never meeting her, the relationship being fraught with disasters, it has all the elements of a classic romance scam,' she said. 'Nobody is saying whether money was sent to her, but that's usually another key element.'

Usually, the perpetrators are men, she said. Deadspin and other publications have drawn a link between Te'o and another young man, Ronaiah Tuisosopo, the possible creator of the hoax. In an interview with ESPN's Jermy Schapp, Te'o said Tuisosopo had apologized to him for being the perpetrator.

Te'o, who maintains he was not complicit in the deceit to attract publicity, said that he spoke by phone to a woman he believed to be Kekua. Female accomplices are a common component of the deception, Sluppick said.
'If a woman makes phone calls to the victim it's probably the wife or girlfriend of the scammer,' she said. And photos are commonly faked - or as Deadspin reported, are photos of a third party who has no idea their images are being used.
When Sluppick and her staff first saw the photo of the woman who was supposed to be Kekua, Sluppick aid she thought it was Raven Riley, a porn star who has a website that scammers oftenuse as a source to copy photos or video they use to deceive their victims.

Sluppick said the parts of the story that are so unbelievable to the general public are the sort of things she hears every day. Te'o's relationship with the fictional girl supposedly began in 2009 and once the hoax was exposed, he finally admitted he had never seen her in person.
'Can it go on for a long time? Yes. Do [the victims] want to meet the person? Yes.' But something always happens when meetings are scheduled so that the lovers never connect. Often the scammer claims some catastrophe prevented them from making the appointment and asks for more money.

According to published reports, Te'o's father, Brian Te'o said that Kekua had visited his son in Hawaii. Clearly this never happened. But it's not unusual that family members would be misled, Sluppick said. She speculated that Manti Te'o told his father and others that he had actually met Kekua in person. Te'o admitted as much to Schaap.
'It's a loving father,' she said. 'He wants to believe his son. If money was sent to her, it probably came from his father. The scammers always ask, ‘Can you borrow the money? Can you get it from your family?' Will a dad fork over money for the love of your life if you tell them the truth, that it's somebody you met online and have never seen?''
Sluppick recounted an almost identical story of a woman who lied to her mother about a face-to-face meeting with a man whose photograph turned out to be that of a male model often used by scammers.

The stories of Te'o staying on the phone with Kekua all night during her alleged illness is a common ploy, she said. Scammers will keep victims awake at all hours, so they are sleep-deprived and can't make clear-headed decision. Kekua's narrative involved being in a serious car crash and then discovering she had leukemia. Creating emotional distress through a series of disasters that require the victim's help are hallmarks of the scams.

'They keep you isolated,' Sluppick said. 'And college football players are pretty isolated anyway. Scammers are experts in psychology, they know how to work their victims.'
It's hard to finally accept that you've been scammed, Sluppick said, and harder still to come forward, as Te'o has been forced to do. The ridicule that Te'o has faced since the story broke is an example of why people are reluctant to report that they've been victims of these scams, she said.

Notre Dame officials said Te'o got a call from the woman he had thought was Kekua on Dec. 6, saying she was not dead after all. The latest bizarre twist to the story came Jan 18, when the Honolulu Star-Advertiser reported that she told Te'o she faked her death to avoid drug dealers. That's when he finally started to doubt, but not before he asked for a photo of her to prove she was still alive. And it was not until Dec. 26,almost three weeks later, that he finally went to his coaches at Notre Dame and told them the whole story.

The truth has done anything but set him free.
'Now, Te'o has all these people on his butt, accusing him of this and that. He starts to understand that he's going to look ridiculous … And he's probably thinking ‘the truth doesn't make me look too good, either.''
She said the ploy to kill off Kekua was unusual, but 'nothing surprises me with a romance scam,' she said. The decision to say she had died was probably because Te'o was putting on a lot of pressure to see her (she was allegedly dying of cancer and had a short time to live). If money was changing hands, that had probably dried up, Sluppick said.

That the victim in this case is a famous athlete exposes another myth about scam victims, Sluppick said.
'People think it's middle-aged women who can't get a date, or lonely old men,' she said. 'Nothing could be further from the truth. Victims are any age, straight, gay, transgendered. Some are disabled, some are doctors, lawyers, CEOs of companies. All you need is to have an email address and a willingness to be in a relationship to fall victim to this kind of scam,' she said.

After an initial prepared release, Te'o has not spoken out on the issue. A press conference hinted at by Notre Dame officials has not materializes.
Sluppick said she hopes he will come forward. It will be difficult, but could be a first step toward repairing his image and setting the record straight.
'Because it is so public, it can call attention to this issue,' she said. The same thing has happened to many other people, she said. Knowledge and education about the scam could help clear Te'o's name and might help call attention to other victims of the same crime.


2013-01-24, 20:13:29
anonymous from United States  
I had a guy named Jeff Anderson to contact me on sight...he said he was a widow and had a daughter that was 13...he was from Virginia and yes..his dad had just died he was a gemster.. he first contacted me from a Virginia number and then he said he suddenly had to go out of town to finish off his dads estate..and then he wanted to of course marry me..I knew it was a scam I listed to what he was telling me so I could warn others...he was so perfect and wanted to move to my city and buy me a house...he must did not realize I am a realtor and research all information first...then this Jeff Anderson...with a Nigerian accent..and an American name...really....he then called from a Nigerian number..oh but he was supposedly in the Uk...women beware...he never out right asked for the money, but suddenly he was having problems collecting his money and paper work..

2013-01-24, 21:40:07
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:2013-01-24, 20:13:29
anonymous from United States
Jeff Anderson

This is a scammer 100%,he has all the signs of a Nigerian scammer! Please post all information as emailaddress,phone numbers given and more photos if you have .user name he is going under as well,introduction mail also .The money asking was just to come,when scammers starts to talk problems and having issues with money the golden request is coming very soon.

All kind regards //Miss Marple//
2013-01-25, 09:15:59   (updated: 2013-01-25, 09:29:33)
What I don't understand is why people cannot see Manti Te'o was a victim of a scammer.. It is told on TV and on the internet how these people operate and yet they are trying to make him look like a liar and a fool.. He fits all the evidence of being a victim of a scammer.. Whether the man who was behind scamming Te'o admits to his involvement or not ..there was a womans voice.. Te'o was fooled to think this person was real.. and you dont want to admit to anyone they are not.. I know what it is to be scammed and I was in denial for a long time and too ashamed to admit to people the person I thought the world of... was not real.. I was involved with the man of my dreams for 3 yrs.. Only after he caused me to lose my friends from borrowing money for him and go bankrupt did I wise up.. I finally found this site and understood what he was.. Te'o said yesterday on the talk show..everytime they made plans to meet.. something came up.. Sound Familiar??? that is what happened to me.. I was at a airport waiting for my true love 3 different times.. If there was money involved.. that would explain why she came back from the dead.. He was her or his meal ticket.. They asked Te'o on a talk show why he didnt try to find someone at his school or someone he knew was real.. The same reasons people are on this site after they were scammed.. They are lonely and the internet seems like the easiest place to find someone you have something in common with.. The way they are treating him is why people will not admit to their family, friends or the authorities what happened to them.. You are made to look like a fool.. Te'o problem is he is a athelete in the lime light and it makes him look worse.. Problem is.. He is Human who truly wanted to believe in this person..
Being a victim of a scammer myself,, I know how he is feeling and I feel sorry for him..I just cant understand why the media and the authorities cannot see what happened.. I know he lied about meeting the woman.. but I never wanted to admit I had been scammed myself..
2013-01-25, 14:02:19 from Canada  
The scammer who was masquerading as Jessica Cablin now goes by the handle,Fusena Ali.She/he is still using Natalie Spark's photo as part of her scam.
2013-01-25, 14:02:19 from Canada  
The scammer who was masquerading as Jessica Cablin now goes by the handle,Fusena Ali.She/he is still using Natalie Spark's photo as part of her scam.
2013-01-25, 14:02:19 from Canada  
The scammer who was masquerading as Jessica Cablin now goes by the handle,Fusena Ali.She/he is still using Natalie Spark's photo as part of her scam.
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Dating scammer Osai Williams from Ghana
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2013-01-25, 14:02:19 from Canada  
The scammer who was masquerading as Jessica Cablin now goes by the handle,Fusena Ali.She/he is still using Natalie Spark's photo as part of her scam.
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Dating scammer Rhoda Naa from Accra, Ghana
Dating scammer Esther Ansomaa from Accra, Ghana
Dating scammer Esther Ansomaa from Accra, Ghana

2013-01-25, 18:23:41
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:Manti Te'o
2013-01-25, 09:15:59 (updated: 2013-01-25, 09:29:33)

I agree totally ,when i found this article i knew this is a Romance scam ,all we who have met a scammer knows what these scammers are capable to and what harm they can cause to people both emotionally and financially , i am not sure if this Manti Teo lost any money ,but that do not matter as the guy seems to be broken down ..and media then accuses him to lie ,well let me say like this these people who have never experienced a scammer online can not possibly know how it even feels and this what i have pointed out so many times since the time i started to contribute on this site that the understanding is minimal among people out in the society ,there is no help to get as there is NO knowledge what scammers can do and what disaster a scam in it self already do ,no wonder people feel guilt and are ashamed when people just judge ,

All human beings do mistakes in life but this is not about that even this is people that is victims in a real crime,any victim who has encountered a criminal feels guilt and shame as the psychological reaction is the same as you are in a crisis ..the same 4 psychological stages in crisis you go through when you effort a life changing situation as sickness,accidents ,violence and death ,,so what it is the difference ?? None of is both upsetting and sad to see how media hunts this scam victim ,i think the victim is so humiliated already as a human being can already be ,is this really necessary ??

Thank you for posting !

//Miss Marple//
2013-01-26, 18:23:52
anonymous from United States  
I met this man on craigslist name jones bauer corcoran he says he is in the arm and in south africa I got weary of him beucase he started pushing to fast to say take my add down he wants me for himself and then later within a few days asked what kinda phoneI had and how he wants one and his money was tied up where he is at! and is single dad works with arkansa group out of texas but weh I asked question it was a gernetead respons of the same answer that matched perfectly , then heis stpries re incomplete and when I said I wanted to send care package he said they use american postal office any american expecially american solider would of said just got o post office!!.. there was much more he want ipad and iphone and talking about us being together ,... I felt like there was something wrong so I cut him off I am a single mom I dont have much and I would of sent it to him if it wasnt for this site!!! .. thank you
attatchced is the picture used! I wanted to beilive him I mean the last name is on the patch looks like aermican solider but i dont know
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