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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.

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2010-03-18, 10:05:36
Miss Marple from Sweden  

FBI Warns ‘Romance Scams’ On The Rise
By Angie Price
Published: February 13, 2010

COLUMBUS, Ohio – Just in time for Valentine’s Day, the FBI has issued a warning on “Romance Scams”.

According to Harry Trombitas of the FBI, in the greater Columbus area in the last couple of months, two cases have come to the attention of the FBI bringing an added twist to the more common “Romance Scams”.

They most common reported scam involves online dating. People will chat with each other, become friendly over a period of weeks or even months, never meeting. When the victim lets their guard down, that “special person” will suffer a personal tragedy and need money to pay hospital bills, or they are traveling abroad and get their wallet stolen.

The two recent cases have involved the “special person” needing to travel abroad for business. It was reported that once the person got overseas, in both cases to Nigeria, they were abducted. The kidnapper then calls the victim demanding money or they will kill their “soul mate”.

In one case, the victim wired money to Nigeria before realizing they were scammed. A second victim contacted the FBI before sending money and quickly learned she was about to be scammed.

The FBI encourages the public to never, under any circumstances, send money to someone you have met through an online dating service without having verified the person they are communicating with is a real person.
2010-03-18, 10:49:40
OJAS from United States  
2010-03-18, 10:57:11
Miss Marple from Sweden  
Is it an bigger risk to become scammed on a free dating site??The internet is flooded with so many free dating sites now,how safe are you out there online??I met an scammer on an free dating site.....but do the Dating sites really care for there is scammers on theire sites??

Why don't online sites filter out scammers?
Good question! Some sites do (we do on this site, of course). Some unscrupulous online dating sites don't filter for scammers because they feel that the more messages going through the system, the better, no matter what the quality of the correspondence is.

Sites like this one do filter of course, but we can't spot all scammers. We rely on members reporting scammers to us. Usually the scammers will conduct their business having lured you away from the site and onto regular email or instant messaging. This is to avoid detection by the online dating site. Nevertheless we have our own checklist of tell-tale signs which we can use to judge if the person you're reporting to us is likely to be a scammer, so feel free to report away.





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Dating scammer Nancy Milman from Accra, Ghana

2010-03-18, 10:59:52
Miss Marple from Sweden  
Thanks i noticed this my self !! You are an indeed link expert..
2010-03-18, 13:46:54
OJAS from United States  
Thanks, Miss Marple.
Hope my links are hot, not destroyed by delphi! :-))|Romance|Romance

Unfortunately a Canadian friend didn't solve the posting problem on this good article http://www.delphifa..=11#28674

If someone finds time, maybe request Admin for an email of his original article, before delphi killed it? Then we may be able to trim the URLs re-post.
2010-03-18, 14:39:36
Slyfox from United Kingdom  
2010-03-16, 05:24:03 (updated: 2010-03-16, 05:29:27)
@Miss Marple


I had this sent to me on Monday! Do not open the attachement!

I had a good look at it and the IP header was coming out of Australia!

The attachement is:

It will steal all passwords!

2010-03-18, 16:20:41
OJAS from United States  
Thanks, Slyfox, about your warning.

Computer security is important, if you want to avoid a future headache! Despite several friends' suggestion, I still have not setup an account on this site; Why?…

This site had been hacked before, a Brazilian friend as soon as starting a new thread, found in his email, a Boris, with a lot of reference about this site, and he, Boris himself started fighting us in delphi!

Klaus emailed the Admin asking to delete 2 JPEGS uploaded here with trojans attached.

When fighting Boris (or mugus) you have to anticipate that they will try to hack your accounts, emails, disrupt every site you visit (even those that have nothing to do with scams!)
2010-03-19, 15:59:26   (updated: 2010-03-19, 16:04:27)
Slyfox from United Kingdom  
2010-03-18, 16:20:41
@OJAS from United States
this was on UK news, not something that only happened to me 2 days before it hit the news!
I just had the decency to take a look and note the detail and let everyone know...of course it's important to keep Anti-Virus updated...and add extra if necessary.
Kind regards,
2010-03-19, 16:47:06
OJAS from United States  
Thanks Slyfox.

Appreciate your efforts, warning newbies about things to watch for; And yesterday this was released

Kind Regards.
2010-03-19, 17:49:35
Slyfox from United Kingdom  
2010-03-19, 16:47:06
@OJAS from United States

Glad you have your finger on the pulse....

Kind regards,

2010-03-21, 23:44:53
DOC from United States  

2010-03-22, 07:51:33
Miss Marple from Sweden  
Thanks Ojas and Slyfox !!

This is an serious threath to the integrity to become hacked in the internet ,so my general warning is that to be very carefull what personal information you give out and what photos you share with people,the scammers takes every oppurtunity to steele identitys because they use them to get access to dating sites with stolen identitys and pay the fees with stolen creditcards

•“The U.S. embassy in Accra, Ghana, reports receiving up to 15 calls a week from Americans who have lost money on relationship scams originating in Ghana” 5 November 2006

Ghanaians and Nigerians in eHarmony
Here’s a shock: According to Quantcast, most eHarmony site visitors come from Ghana, next to Canada and the US.
This is not saying there are 30,000 Ghanaians in eHarmony; the real numbers are higher. First, they have multiple accounts. Second, they use proxy servers located on the USA so their visits count as US visits.

Stolen credit cards, stolen identities aRelyID
How about locking customers to their credit card’s country? Well, how would you like being told you can’t use eHarmony when you need to work in India for a couple of months? On the other hand, how about the subscriber in Ghana who changed his country to USA a day after he registered?

What merchant wants chargebacks? No one does. eHarmony, being a service provided on ethernet and not a tangible item, perhaps cannot refuse transactions on credit cards based overseas. Perhaps they absorb the eventual chargeback fee ($25-$30) as a cost of doing business.

And, yes, identities can be stolen. All RelyID does is give a safeguard that the person using eHarmony under the profile of “Jan Thomas (Anytown, USA)”, knows enough about a certain Jan Thomas of Anytown, USA, that exists on public records. Judging from a RelyID explanatory email, that person may really be using a stolen credit card or may really be typing away in Ghana or Nigeria.

There’s money to be made in romance scams. I heard from an anonymous source that the first paying customers of a brand-new online dating site will be scammers. Chargebacks will be frequent, this source said. Don’t think though that these sites ignore such users because they increase traffic and persuade people to join.

2010-03-22, 08:02:44
Miss Marple from Sweden  

Thank´you so much for youre kindness!! :)
2010-03-22, 08:57:25
Miss Marple from Sweden  
I found an good article about Malwares with good explanations what it is if you dont know the meaning of cookie ,trojan and virus

The Internet is filled with scams, and eventually they wind up in your e-mail box. The ingenuity of these people is astonishing. Their goal is usually to get you to click on an e-mail attachment, so they can infect your computer with a virus, a tracking cookie, and/or a trojan horse.

'COMPUTER VIRUSES strike fear into all our hearts. When a particularly vicious virus comes out, announcements are made on television and in newspapers. For a good discussion of computer viruses, go to

'A COOKIE can be perfectly aboveboard and even helpful. For example, when you visit, you get a cookie which enables their computer to recognize you when you return and to remember the sort of thing you're interested in. TRACKING COOKIES, on the other hand, record the places you go online and what links you click on, telling advertisers what type of ads should be aimed at you. It's true, they won't transmit a virus, but who wants an Internet bloodhound baying on their trail? Good anti-spyware will remove tracking cookies.

'A TROJAN HORSE pretends to be something it is not, such as an e-mail from a friend or something you've ordered. The text of the e-mail may say, 'Here is the information you wanted.' Or, 'Keep this as a secret between you and me.' Or, 'You've just won our grand prize!' Anything to make you click on that attachment. Once you do, the trojan horse takes over your computer. It can do any malicious thing it wants, from erasing files to changing your desktop. It then propagates by sending itself to other people in your address book. A good friend just had his Internet address list stolen, and I've been getting messages supposedly from him ever since. They all want me to click on an attachment to the e-mail. I e-mailed asking him if he'd sent that message. He had not.

Even if you're smart enough not to click on a trojan horse attachment yourself, one of the friends on your address list may do so, your address will then be stolen, and off you go into the underworld.

Once scammers get your e-mail address, they may use it to send malicious e-mails to thousands of people in your name. I usually discover this when I get 'I'm out of the office' automatic responder messages from people I never heard of. It's frustrating, but I know it isn't my fault.


2010-03-22, 09:01:44
Miss Marple from Sweden  


'Anti-scam rule 1: Never click on an attachment from a good friend unless you are positive the friend sent it. It takes only a minute to click on 'Reply' and ask the friend, 'Did you really send this?'

'Anti-scam rule 2: Never double-click on an e-mail attachment that contains an executable, such as an EXE, COM or VBS suffix. Once you click on it, an executable can do any sort of damage it wants. (Enough people now know this to make the scammer say, 'This attachment is virus-free.' If you believe that, I've got a nice bridge I'd like to sell you.)

'Anti-scam rule 3: Your computer CANNOT be infected by an e-mail attachment unless you click on the attachment. If you simply delete the suspicious message without clicking on a link or the attachment, you're okay.


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